Marriages Restored

Our Infidelity and Redemption--Gender

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November 2007--Ann and I shared something similar to this in the Engaged Couples Class today.  I thought it would be a good idea to repost it to let everyone know more of what we are about. 

The day following Labor Day in 1994 my wife confessed her affair to me.  I had suspected as much but still felt more pain and anger than I ever imagined that I could feel.  I was in a state of shock.  We tell our story in categories of gender, grief, grace and gratitude.  In gender we share what we learned growing up about what it means to be a man or a woman.  We look at how those beliefs helped us to move towards an affair in our marriage and how to change those.  Each of us has intentionally grown and changed in painful ways with regards to our gender. 
This post will focus on gender and subsequent posts will move through grief, grace, and gratitude.  The content includes excerpts from our workshop at Restoring the Glory held in Golden, Colorado November 2003.

Our Infidelity and Redemption--The Confession of the Affair

This post is another excerpt from our talk at the Restoring the Glory conference.  It descibes our emotions and worlds leading up to the revelation of the affair.  We also touch upon the chaos that ensued immediately after the revelation.  The affair is an unfortunate yet important part of our story and we do hope you treat it with tenderness and respect.  Feel free to ask any questions you desire if you feel the answer may help you deal with your current situation. 

Our Infidelity and Redemption--Grief

This is the third post from our talk at Restoring the Glory in Golden, Colorado.  The first one covered our insight into gender.  What does it mean to be a man or a woman.  The second dealt with the revelation of Ann's affair.  This post shares our raw, shredded hearts following the illumination of the truth.  We both battled suicidal thoughts.  We both wanted to stay in the relationship and we both wanted out.  We had lost much and were grieving in different ways at first, but more together as time went on. 

Final Chapter--Our Infidelity and Redemption--Grace and Gratitude, Restoration and Redemption

This post is the final in the series of our story as told at The Restoring the Glory Conference in Golden, Colorado at Lookout Mountain Community Church. Here we explore God's grace and our gratitude for his tenderness and compassion. He ministered to us in the depths of our pain, restoring our relationship and redeeming our affairs.