November 2007--Ann and I shared something similar to this in the Engaged Couples Class today. I thought it would be a good idea to repost it to let everyone know more of what we are about.
The day following Labor Day in 1994 my wife confessed her affair to me. I had suspected as much but still felt more pain and anger than I ever imagined that I could feel. I was in a state of shock. We tell our story in categories of gender, grief, grace and gratitude. In gender we share what we learned growing up about what it means to be a man or a woman. We look at how those beliefs helped us to move towards an affair in our marriage and how to change those. Each of us has intentionally grown and changed in painful ways with regards to our gender.
This post will focus on gender and subsequent posts will move through grief, grace, and gratitude. The content includes excerpts from our workshop at Restoring the Glory held in Golden, Colorado November 2003.